Write it down
Say it out loud
Say it to someone, else
How do you know you care about someone? Or that they love you? Is it because that person is constantly on your mind? Or is it because everything you do is with that one other person in mind? Why is validation so important?
The most important step is the last step, it’s repeating what you started. It’s being consistent. It’s creating a habit. It’s 21 days later. I remember sitting in church one day and this idea suddenly made sense: the dismissal. We are all called to carry out and live with purpose and intent, everything we learned while we were there. Some people call it homework, and I call it living. It’s the same thing I notice in my yoga practice, or after I read a really good book. How can I apply this to my life, everyday? With yoga, it’s understanding my body and my breathing and with every book I read, or the more I write, I feel it. It = progress.
Reading and writing about love, marriages, and weddings is such a challenging thing. It’s bittersweet. And it’s simple why it’s so hard. Because it’s beautiful and it’s mysterious. It’s everything someone could want and not want at the same time. It’s love. and often, it’s a battle between heart and head and maybe, another person.
My dad told me when you get married, you don’t know it. Now more than ever it makes sense to me what he meant. Before you even meet that person, you’re married to the thought of them. Who they can be, where they are, what they’re doing. Love is such a waiting game and timing is everything, not to mention a test. A test of a lifetime of commitment.