Being a twenty something, I know I search high and low for inspiration. Finding your purpose is hard. Fitting in is difficult. Complaining is worse. The “place” I am at always makes me wonder if I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. People often tell me I’m doing well for my age. What does that really mean? Are you saying that I’m doing a good job? If so, what does that have to do with my age? Why can’t you just say you’re doing a good job? When people say age is really nothing but a number, it’s usually paired with love or some kind of intimate relationship.
Knowing myself and how I want others to perceive me is a very important relationship. It is THE MOST IMPORTANT relationship. Me, myself, and I? THAT is intimacy. Einstein said it best, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” When someone asks you to describe yourself in 3 words or less, be prepared to do so. Then do it in 140 characters on #twitter.
Whenever I learn something, I make it a point to be able to teach it to someone else. You are your best teacher. If you want to be an effective one, then use trial and error. Word of mouth travels fast and if you are truly good at what you, then people will talk about it. You should also be comfortable talking about yourself while staying humble. YOU ARE YOUR BEST ADVOCATE. No one will advocate better for you than yourself.
People jump into wanting to define who they are with other people without really figuring out who they truly are. My advice on relationships is not be be absorbed with looking for someone to do the things you don’t want to. Don’t go looking for answers in another person, either. Bring something to the table, and share it. Most importantly, look for someone that complements you. Take the time and make the investment to create you. That’s the challenge I’ve made to myself.
I guess now I can believe that the journey is more important than the destination. Being a twenty-something, or what society calls me, a “millenial”, and working among generations has taught me a lot. I’m fortunate enough to hear these people’s stories but I know it’s luck that these people are willing to share. It’s a sad thing to say we live in a world of takers as opposed to givers. That’s another tip, learn to pay-it-forward. I’ve taken a lot of steps to be where I am now. I think I am finally comfortable to go out and ask for what I want. Building the right relationships is important in building anything great. Prove you’ve done enough homework for someone to consider mentoring you.
SAY THANK YOU AND BE CONSIDERATE. Be personal. People are busy. We are all busy. People have full-time jobs, families, and other personal obligations. Remember that.