Nothing pisses me off more than someone telling me that I was given something. I’m not talking about materialistic things, either. I know what entitlement is and I know I’m not entitled to anything. No one is [entitled.] If you want something, then make a plan. Don’t cheat, either. Yeah, there’s more than one way to do something but remember: shortcuts may get you there faster but the way is paved with sharp edges for a reason. Take advantage of the path that’s already there THEN reinvent the wheel. My parents made that more than clear to me growing up. Now more than ever, I have my friends going through things that I knew I had to figure out on my own. I think that’s when I really understood what being a parent is. It’s the hardest job. It’s that parasitic type love and the best part of it all is that it’s unconditional. No matter what decision I made, even if I made it without my parents they still supported me through it all.
The difference is that I figured it out all on my own. I swallowed my pride and worked through the embarrassment. That’s another hard part about being a parent. You have to watch your kids make mistakes. You have to watch them get their heart broken, sometimes more than once. I know what it’s like not to make your parents happy. I know what it’s like not to have things go your way. If anything, I was lucky. I had one person that knew another person and that person decided it was a good idea to recommend me – all with barely knowing me. Someone decided to pay it forward. I also know now more than ever that I couldn’t do that. I can’t put my name on something for someone that wants to bull shit their way through the decisions they make. The best part of that all is that I carried that with me. Anytime I hear about something or see something that I think would be great for someone I run it by my friends. I let them know that hey, I’m going out of my way to help you. I’m thinking of you. But this is where you feel like a parent. You watch your friends throw away awesome opportunities. I can’t say I know better, but I’m smart enough to know that everything is worth trying once. Be wise, friends.