We all know or used to know someone that brought out the best or the worse in us. Whether you walk out on them or they walk out on you, you never realize it until that person is no longer a part of your life. (Sad, isn’t it? The bittersweetness of living ‘in the present.’) Regardless, they’ve already done what they were required to do—figure out who you really are. Fortunately, I’ve met both of those people…at least I think I have. Being young and thinking as optimistic as possible, both the best and worse is yet to come.
My cousin, also known as the best accountant I know raised an interesting point: investing in yourself is the easiest way to make yourself rich. Everyday, you are given 24 hours. In those 24 hours, you sleep for 8, you work for 8, and if you’re smart, you’ll savor those last 8 hours for yourself…
Unfortunately, for myself I’ve always split my “eight hours for myself” to four hours or sometimes only to the twenty minutes I take to get ready. I know now, how much I’ve limited myself and I’m paying for it now but I’ve always grown up with the idea of sharing. I don’t regret giving up the most valuable thing God has blessed me with, I only wish I knew what to really do with it. I’ve thrown away a lot of time doing some stupid things like day trips to Richmond to party or sleeping in until noon. At the time, a couple hours seemed dispensable, unlimited even. NOW, I’m up constantly competing against the sun trying to steal as much as I can from every day only to make up for lost time.
After being in three “long term relationships.” One guy, brought out the best in me. He challenged me and pushed me to always do my best all while keeping me wrapped around his finger. (boo!) Even though those were some of the happiest four years of my life, he brought about nearly four years AFTER to be the worse years of my life. The relationship really lasted more like 8 years…That’s the thing about relationships. “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” I willingly gave that person my 8 hours everyday that I was completely entitled to. I’m so over being nice. Isn’t the battle to give up yourself for one person other than your offspring, one worth losing? You win some, you lose some.